Pre Marital Sex ???? OMG, OMG !!!!

Preity Zinta is back in town and busy chatting up with tweeple about the hackneyed PMS..pre marital sex. Oolala! That was my the lead story in Deccan Chronicle's Sunday Page co authored with a friend. A well researched article that was published in 1994 in DC sizzled the ground I walked on. The heat was unbearable. The responses ranged from this extreme to that. Many chose to believe our researched facts in the story and others just chose to abuse me and look at me with suspicion and contempt because I was a young unmarried woman writing about it. What people did not understand that I was not endorsing or supporting PMS. 

I had not known the story was already in print for the Sunday edition when I walked into the DC office on a Thursday evening that time and the reactions and the glances of some people were just too much to handle. Uff!!!

As a woman writer I always feel  sensitive to whatever gets written about sex...pre or post marriage. And how the spoken word goes around. From an innocuous SEX column where each one of us have been ticking Male/Female to announce who we are to SEX as a three letter forbidden word the whole perspective changes. 

Read this:

"Navneet Chaurasia ‏ @c_navneet

@realpreityzinta i think it's completely OK as sex is an emotion more out of love than marriage & love does not wait for marriage to happen.

Retweeted by Preity zinta

I would say that there is no point in getting judgmental about it but yes while men communicate to get that sex, women give sex to get that communication right. Somewhere along the line if its only about good sex and not about bonding then it is devoid of emotions. And that can turn a relationship into a nerve breaking stressful one which has a very short shelf life.

There is nothing wrong about sex if it happens to be a building block in a healthy, respectable and a loving relationship without a negative space of guilt!!!